This is not really a romantic story, but rather a long term observation of losing hair and losing dates.  It has a message for the balding and insecure with a happy ending.

In high school and a few years after I dated a plethora of females. I knew I was losing my hair and at times felt that I was in a race to find a beautiful mate before I lost what hair I had. I thought that the more I lost, the harder it would be to find women interested in me. Just writing this makes me feel stupid, but I know I'm not the only one to experience those feelings. You hear the negative comments or run into an old friend and the first thing out of their mouth is "wow, getting a little thin on top".

I looked at people who have thick hair and good looks and confidence and felt envious. The 90's hair styles, for various reasons, showed more buzz cuts and shaved heads. It gave me the courage to buzz mine. I thought my thinning hair was drastically effecting my social life. I tried those topical hair solutions, watched those stupid infomercials and bought into all that crap that bald was bad and hair made the man... How pathetic.

As soon as I buzzed my hair I felt that I wasn't hiding my receding hairline. I was showing it off. A sense of pride and individuality suddenly appeared. Women spoke to me more often. I had attractive women interested in me again. I had a social life again and felt good about me.

Then I realized, it was not because I shaved my head, at least not entirely. It was because I felt better about me and it showed. Women didn't like me more, I was just more confident and spoke to more women. Self discovery is a great thing. Women like confident, secure, honest men who go after what they like. Sure some women might not like bald guy's. To bad, so sad, move on. I like women who take pride in their appearance and women like men who take pride in their appearance. I have a ton of romantic stories. They didn't happen because I'm going bald. They happened because I am in touch with who I am and what I like and it shows.

Readers, if a rug or spray paint hair makes you feel better, have at it. But, covering something that you perceive as a problem will only looked upon as a problem. Deep down you'll feel that and it will show in your behavior.

Respect your looks and respect others and you'll feel good about yourself. You deserve it.

Sincerely shinning on top,

Scott

While your wife is out, go to the nearest "ROSExpress" and buy a five pound bag of rose petals. (They cost about $30) Make a trail of them through the house and then fashion a huge rose petal heart in the middle of your bed. (Be aware, rose petals feel cold, even in the summer.) If you want to make it more romantic, leave little love notes and a chilled bottle of champagne along the way. (To make her feel even more loved, tell her that you will be responsible for vacuuming up the petals)

Submitted by: Tony, Washington DC

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