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I shaved my dome after a HCM appointment in 2002. The consultant
did not fully advise me of the long-term fees required to maintain
the “system” and luckily was able to receive my deposit back.
I found several websites like this one and felt absolutely great
about shaving it all off. My fellow officers (I am a cop) often
say that they wish they could shave but they feel they are too
fat, have a funny shaped head, or that their wives would not like
it.
I do have a question though: Do you ever wish that you had hair?
Lately-I have. I sometimes get a little envious of those with
thick hair. I guess part of that is normal. I am very glad I did
not give in to the pressure from the hair replacement industry.
I still am motivated to shave it and feel that it frees me up
to think about the important things in life: God, family, nature,
friends.
Corey
Corey:
In the first year or two, it is natural to wonder what it would
be like to have a full head of hair again; after all, it reminds
us of our youth and its associated adventures. In our case though,
“absence does not make our heart grow fonder,” (of our hair that
is). The fervency of that longing depends upon the length of time
that you’ve been separated from those dead strands. As time goes
by, it’s like trying to remember the face of an old friend. The
memories fade and eventually most guys can’t remember what they
looked like with hair and, most often, would prefer not to. In
time, your bare pate will become your new best friend and you
will love it.
As for your friends who are afraid to go all the way because
of their size, head shape or wives opinions, I can only say that
it is a courage thing. They just need to get over worrying about
what other people think and become their own man.
Dear Bald Guy,
In reading all the articles here, it is reassuring to see that
there are so many other people out there that are in the same
boat as myself. Here's my story: I am now 21 years old and I started
losing my hair probably at around 15 or so. Pretty devastating.
I thought about it all the time!! I would skip school if my hair
didn't look good (which was pretty often). I eventually came to
realize that my life would be completely different if I did in
fact have hair - so I decided to do something about it.
I looked into transplants but decided against it since I would
not be able to ever have a full head of hair. So, I did the next
best thing and looked into high-quality hair pieces. At 18, I
started wearing a hairpiece and my friends and family were more
than supportive. I actually felt great. It's now 3 years later
and I am no longer as happy as I used to be. I am always worrying
if people notice, if it looks good or bad and what people are
thinking. So basically, I'm in the same boat as I was before I
had hair. The thing is, when I feel that my hairpiece looks good,
I feel great. I think to myself that if it always looked this
good, I would be comfortable with the fact that I am wearing a
hairpiece. But that is not the case at all.
In my experience with a hairpiece, it is possible for them to
look good, but this only lasts for maybe 2 weeks or so. After
that, the hair dries up and looks ..lifeless. My hairpiece is
of high-quality and is "virtually" undetectable (as
the advertisements say). To translate: it is difficult to feel
the outer perimeter of the piece, but naturally you can feel a
ridge if you go looking for it.
To anyone considering getting a hairpiece, it is very important
to invest in a good one. If you're going to do it, do it right.
Also, it is important to request to see another client's. Although
this is perhaps awkward to ask, it is totally worth it. I do not
believe that there is such thing as a totally undetectable (visually
or through touch) hairpiece: I think that there are only really
good hairpieces that look like really good hairpieces that most
people probably wouldn't notice unless they were having the same
problem or were involved in the business. To elaborate, I don't
think that anyone wearing a hairpiece would be able to sneak by
me unnoticed, but that's only because I am always looking at everyone's
hair.
I have thought about shaving my head, but I don't think that it
would suit me. I think it's good that society now encourages bald
people to shave their heads and I do think that it does in fact
look good. I am not ready at this point in my life to shave my
head, but I am tired of always worrying about things. Do you have
any advice?
Franky.
Franky: advice from The Bald Guy is coming soon...
Dear Bald Guy,
I am 23 years old and have recently realized that I have a quickly
receding hairline (brought to my attention by just about everyone
over the last few months). Thing is, I've become extremely self-conscious
about this. I used to be a confident guy but now I can't walk
out the door without wondering who's going to mention my receding
hairline next. I know it shouldn't be a big deal, but I can't
seem to convince myself of that yet. I always thought that I'd
just shave my head if I ended up losing my hair, but there's another
problem. I've got a large head (I'm Irish, imagine Conan O'Brien).
So I think I might look even more ridiculous by shaving it all
off. Can you offer any words of wisdom? Even if hair loss isn't
curable, I sure hope my self-confidence is. I'd appreciate any
words of wisdom you may have... thank you!
Johnny
Johnny!
The first thing you should do is get a tight Vin Diesel buzz
cut (He too has a receding hair line) and don't let the size or
shape of your head concern you. If you go to our Bald Men Hall
of Fame, you will see a plethora of unique bare pates. After you've
gotten used to the buzz cut, go all the way and you'll never look
back. You will find that the varying head sizes and shapes just
add character to the new "Q" look, and, if you are single,
brace yourself, for a whole new horizon is coming your way.
God Bless,
Tony Snesko
Founder, Bald R Us.com
Dear Bald Guy
I had 4 transplant operations when I was in my early 20's
and now I’m 31 and wish I never did. I have spent close to $20,000
on my hair loss between the transplants and the 5 or 6 different
hair systems I have tried. I’m currently wearing one and can’t
stand it anymore. I am at the point where I would rather shave
my head bald but can’t because of the scars. What can I do? I’m
at the end of all this and cant stand it anymore! This has controlled
my life and I am going broke. Please email me back with any information
you may have about this.
Thank you,
Anthony
Dear Anthony:
I have a friend who is a stock trader in New York and he has
had several surgeries and scars covering the back, top and sides
of his head. In his line of work he sees hundreds of people every
day and one day he became so angry with himself and the hair replacement
industry that he just shaved his head and now uses it as a walking
billboard and conversation piece to warn people about making the
same mistake. If you aren't willing to go that route, you can
contact either of these two plastic surgery referral services
and they can refer you to a doctor who can diminish your scarring
considerably.
International Society of Aesthetic Plastic Surgery (ISAPS)
45 Lyme Road - Suite 304
Hanover, NH 03755 USA
Tel /1-603-643-2325
Fax /1- 603-643-1444
Email / isaps@sover.net
Website / www.isaps.org
or
Or call 1-888-4PLASTIC (1-888-475-2784) for referrals to ASPS
member surgeons certified by The American Board of Plastic Surgery.
God Bless,
Tony Snesko
Founder, Bald R Us.com
Dear Bald Guy,
About three months ago I started
dating an INCREDIBLY sexy bald man. Because he's an attractive,
confident, outgoing person, I assumed he was comfortable with
his baldness, but I'm slowly discovering that he's not. Recently,
I tried to take a picture of him while on a trip, and he turned
away from the camera saying "Don't baby, I don't have any
hair"...as we grow closer, I hear the discomfort in his voice
as he tries to fend off the casual (and friendly) names and jokes
that get tossed his way, as well as those he makes about himself.
I've made a point of telling him how gorgeous I think he is, but
I wish there was something more I could say to help him feel more
at ease with his appearance.
Any advice?
In Love,
Circe
Dear Circe,
Sorry for the delay in getting
back to you. I just bought a Harley Davidson and it has taken
over my life.
You don't need any advice because
you are doing exactly what needs to be done. I too thought that
I was unattractive as my baldness took over. It was my wife
who constantly told me that I was attractive and that I wouldn't
be nearly as handsome if I had hair. I believe her, and so will
your boyfriend believe you if you continue your praise of his
bare pate. So take those pictures and hang them on your wall
for him to see, it's just a matter of time.
God Bless,
Tony Snesko
Founder, Bald R Us
PS. If he gets a Harley, I guarantee
you that he will no longer think of his lost follicles.
Hi bald guy,
I have been shaved for about two
weeks now and it feels great. One problem I am having though is
a rash on the back of my head. It is real low almost on my neck.
Is this normal? Is there a way to get rid of them.
Thanks!
Kenny F.
Greetings Kenny!
Welcome to the club!
You will find that rashes usually
occur when you shave with a razor against the natural direction
of your hair growth. (Shaving with an upward stroke on the sides
of your head.) Most men can solve the rash problem by just shaving
in a downward motion at all times, while others find that switching
to a top of the line electric razor is the solution. There are
some men who just have tender skin and the only way to heal
the rash is a good after shave or medicated lotion.
Let me know if any of these cures
work for you.
Keep on shining!
Tony Snesko
Founder, Bald R Us
Dear Bald Guy:
I'm 26 years old . It had hit
me when I was 16 . I heard it in high school and then it took
a dormant period until about 6 months ago. It happened so rapidly
that I am embarrassed to go in public without some kind of inconspicuous
cover-up that I wear. I feel that the only way to really push
myself in life is to not worry about this. But still it crosses
me every day and I don't know how to cope. Please I would appreciate
some insight on this matter.
Thank You,
Anthony
Dear Anthony:
I'm sorry I took so long to get
back to you, but I bought a Harley Davidson two weeks ago and
it has monopolized my time. About your balding, you have
several choices but only one that will ultimately make you feel
better about yourself:
If you choose to go with a toupee,
you will seldom find one that isn't detectable and your whole
life will be spent wondering if people know that you are wearing
one. (They will!)
If you go for a transplant, you may experience
several drawbacks. Sometimes the transplant doesn't take
and you are stuck with scars the rest of your life, forcing
you to wear a toupee forever. Some transplants are so obvious
that they look like corn rows. The true horror stories come
from men who hired doctors who didn't know what they were doing
and were left with huge scars in the areas from which the hair
was taken and still others were left with uneven hair on the
sides of their head.
If you choose to try the various
medications available, you will end up spending tens of thousands
of dollars over your lifetime and, more often than not, they
either won't work or the results will be minimal. I would not
recommend spending that kind of money for a few sprouts.
All three of these alternatives
to baldness will make you a slave to the mirror. Whiplash will
strike you daily as you pass store windows and anything else
that bares your reflection.
The best thing you could do is
ignore it. Let it go, because there is really nothing that you
can do that will make you feel better, except either accepting
the fact that you are attractive with or without hair, or shaving
your head entirely as many young men do to make it appear that
it is your choice rather than God's.
Let me know what you decide to
do.
May God bless your decision!
Tony Snesko
Founder, Bald R Us
Hi there Bald Guy!
I am a bald man as of 30 minutes
ago. My wife shaved my head.
I am wondering what I need to
do to keep a smooth bald head. Are there products that will keep
it bald such as Nair or something to that effect? I always wanted
to be a bald man and now that I am I want to be able to keep it
that way as easy as possible. Please let me know if you have any
solutions to my question. Thanks for your time.
Sincerely and Baldly,
Gary
Hi Gary!
Congratulations on going all the
way! One of the greatest benefits of having no hair is you no
longer get whiplash when you walk past a mirror because you
never have a bad hair day.
There is a hair removal cream for
heads called "Magic" that you can find in cosmetic
stores. It averages about $4.00 per tube and I have no idea
how many applications are in each tube. There is also a Magic"
powder to remove facial hair but I don't know how it works on
head hair. The powder costs about $2.00.
If I were you, I'd do what I do,
use an electric razor or buy the economy plastic Gillette razors
in bulk packs at warehouse stores like Costco or Sams. What
makes shaving my head even more enjoyable is when my wife does
it, which is most of the time.
I hope this helps.
God Bless,
Tony
"The Bald Guy"
Dear Bald
Guy
I am so very grateful for this website. I just got married and
no one knows my fiancé wears a hairpiece.( I have not even told
my sister). It feels like a shameful secret that I kept since
we met over a year ago. No one has ever said a word which had
lead me to believe it looks completely natural. Until this morning,
when I went to pick up my paycheck at work at my office in New
York. I am on vacation. One of the co-workers had brought pictures
in of our company picnic. To my horror, she brought a photo album
of them in to share with everyone. The obnoxious secretary pulled
them out and informed me that my husband of 40 looks 60 years
old, and that he looks like he's wearing a toupee. My biggest
nightmare came true. I was left speechless and stunned. I look
very young for 33. She proceeded to tell me that the other office
workers were commenting the same thing, and were laughing at his
hairpiece. I could have died. I went back to the pictures I had
at home and searched for any evidence. Does everyone know now?
Will everyone think I am married to a 60 year old. Suddenly, I
want to rip that thing to shreds and burn it too. I feel I have
been keeping a big secret and always worry that people notice.
Can you give me some advice on how we deal with this situation?
Signed,
A loving (but embarrassed) wife.
Dear "Embarrassed"
You have a
difficult situation but not impossible. The problem is, if you
are going to buy a hairpiece, you have to spend enough money
to make sure that it is not detectable. My former pastor has
worn a wig for 15 years and no one has ever guessed that he
is bald. He confessed his baldness to all of us elders when
he became pastor. Let's face it, some people look good bald
and some don't. Some people look good with hair and most don't.
I've always had a beard and mustache so I really don't know
what I look like without hair on both ends. I just know that
my wife always tells me that I'm handsome and that's all I need.
If your husband feels that he has to continue wearing a hairpiece,
then you should be prepared to pay several thousand dollars
for the best. Cheap hairpieces will always be noticed. You never
notice the expensive ones.
As for your friends at work, I can only tell you this, if someone
joked about my wife's weight, or anything else for that matter,
they would cease to be my friend. Your husband is your best
friend and the best way to make your office buddies jealous
is to make him out to be the most romantic person in the world.
See our romantic escapades section
or our romantic reading list.
Then every week when you go to work with another wonderful tale
of romance I guarantee you, they will want a husband like yours,
bald or hairy. Romance is not always and inherited trait, often
it has to be learned. So go for it! And remember, "It takes
two to Tango!"
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